When we hope that others will mind their own business, we usually are really hoping that they’ll stay out of ours. Here’s a twist: What if we really learned to mind our own business—to get how we really operate from the inside out and how that affects others—so that others would not need to worry about us so much? What long ago was outlined as “emotional intelligence” now is as relevant as it ever was. And it is multi-dimensional, more than its initial researchers really understood.
One dimension helps us grasp the way what we know gets deployed in real-time, with others. That we can learn to pay attention to our mind’s work and how it generates emotional states for us (and others) is totally possible to understand. And work with. You can stop fighting yourself and more often put into play your best stuff—in a way that is more productive and satisfying. A second dimension helps you peek under the hood and notice what assumptions are governing what you assess as important and how you frame up (think picture) and focus on what matters. Those assumptions help you, and they limit you. A third dimension puts the first two in perspective. Or put more accurately, allows you to take perspective on what’s happening in a bigger way.
This is not easy or quick work. Understanding what it involves doesn’t have to take a lot of time or cost a lot. It can change how you look at what’s in front of you: now, and for the rest of your life. Glad to talk.